As a new mother, a lot of people ask me how I am coping with the demands of an infant’s round the clock schedule. And almost all of them gasped a year ago when I told them I am going back to stay with my husband with no other elder physically present to support me from there on.
If as a new mum, you have the luxury of staying with your folks, it means a lot is taken care of without you needing to start from point zero. Point zero is that point where you realize that your baby has a certain need and you have to fix it. Because your parents already know the need and its solution. So you are automatically saved the burden of going through the first two steps. And that is a lot. These are the most difficult days. There are a few things which are different in the first one month.
In Case of A Surgery
If you had a surgery, chances are that the first 20 days sitting will also be a task. So would be sleeping, holding your baby, caring for her and yourself. This is definitely the time to garner all the help you can. If you already know you will have a cesarean, plan ahead. Ask a friend or relative to come over. Hire help if possible. Keep the kitchen ready with ready to eat frozen meals. Ask your partner to do laundry and other things.
The Emotional Meltdowns
The emotional mess that your are. The moment you are back from the hospital, there is a barrage of emotions you go through, and you have no idea why! Mostly it is the hormone levels receding in your body causing all this chaos. But it makes things all the more difficult when coupled with a new baby.
Lack of sleep
No explanation required. This one requires a lot of help from others who can watch over the baby while you grab some precious nap time. It is also important for you to sleep, especially with all the physical strain you have gone through.
Lack of experience
If you are a first time mom, you will not know how to handle a lot of things and hence you will require an experienced person or an expert around you.
Once you are past this, you start getting a hang of things and soon you are enjoying the perks of being a new mommy – a lot of snuggles, that first smile, the first time she will decide to put her arms around you. However, you still have a lot of work at hand! If you are managing the baby by yourself (no relative apart from husband) then a having someone around will be a great help. If not, a lot of organization and meticulous planning around your house might do the trick.